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(Dan LiKaf Zchut) Judging Others by Rabbi Stephen Baars __________________________________________________________________________________ A Situation Guide Situation: You see someone doing something wrong, but you can't rebuke them (they won't listen...) 1-Give her the benefit of the doubt: a-maybe she doesn't know b-maybe she is doing the best she can with the tools she has c-maybe this is an even higher level than how she used to be (& she'll continue working on herself.) 2-If I were in her place, I might be worse off!
Situation: Someone insults you! 1-Maybe it just came out wrong and she didn't really mean to insult you. 2-"Everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle"-who knows what she is dealing with! 3-She's a Shaliach from Hashem to test my Middos! 4-How can she help me grow??? 5-"If you don't hurt those who hurt you, all your sins are forgiven".
Situation: You do something nice, and the person doesn't appreciate it or thank you. 1-give her the benefit of the doubt, maybe she will thank you later but couldn't now... 2-Take it as a reminder for all the times we do not fully appreciate all the good Hashem has done for us; the good Hashem does is pure, while we may have ulterior motives. 3-Realize that you should do things as TRUE Chessed; without needing appreciation or recognition! If you have any more "Situations" you'd like to add (w/ the proper reaction), email me: Cling2treeoflife@aol.com Thanks!!! |
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