If we pray with sincerity, there is no
such thing as an unanswered prayer.
By Lisa Aiken
www.aish.com
I had gone to Montreal in December for a friend's wedding. I was unprepared for
the bitter cold and its numbing effect on my sightseeing interests. The day
after my arrival, I decided to go to an underground shopping mall where I could
purchase some warm winter boots. As I hailed down a taxi, the wind lashed across
my face. I gave the driver the address of a store that an acquaintance had
recommended and I arrived at my destination some 15 minutes later. I paid the
driver, exited the cab, and tried to get my bearings. By the time I realized
that I was in a totally residential neighborhood
instead of anywhere near a shopping mall, the driver had sped away.
I was hopelessly lost. There were only attached houses sitting atop steps as far
as the eye could see. I had no choice but to knock on someone's door and hope
that they would be kind to a stranger.
I climbed the first set of stairs that I saw. As I reached the top, I breathed a
sigh of relief when I saw a reassuringly familiar sight. A mezuzah was affixed
to the doorpost of the home. Presumably, the owner was Jewish and might be
willing to help a fellow Jew.
I rang the doorbell, not knowing what to expect. After what seemed like a long
time to me, a woman's voice behind the door asked me to identify myself. I
sheepishly admitted that I was a lost American who was trying to find my way to
a boot store. The voice replied that there were no stores in that neighborhood.
She seemed to think that I might be using a ploy to gain entrance into her
house.
I tried again. "I am a Jewish woman who came here for a friend's wedding. I
was staying in Cote St. Luc, and got bad directions to get to a store. I'm
hopelessly lost. Could you please tell me how I
can get a cab back to the shopping area?" I pleaded.
There was silence. I tried once more. "Don't open the door for me. You
don't know who I am. But could you please call a taxi to take me to the
underground mall?"
I was soon to find out that Someone had a more important plan for me than buying
a pair of boots.
Still, no answer. Yet I heard the unmistakable sounds of releasing chains and
unbolting locks, and the door slowly opened a few moments later. A short woman
in her sixties, with reddish-brown hair swept up in a bun, stood before me. She
was at least a head shorter than me, plump, and wore a shapeless black dress
with open-toed shoes. She sized me up very quickly and bid me to come in.
"My, my," she
exclaimed, "it's freezing out there. Come in, come in." With a wave of
her hand, she ushered me into her modest living room. "Can I get you a cup
of tea?"
"No, thanks," I declined, "but thank you for letting me come in.
I'm sure it must be a little worrisome having a stranger come to your
door."
"Yes, it was," she admitted, "because I live alone. You looked
innocent enough, though. What are you doing in this neighborhood?" she
inquired.
"I really don't know myself. I can't imagine how I ended up here. By the
way, how far away is the address on this piece of paper?" I asked.
The lady studied the paper carefully and replied, "That's on the other side
of town. It will take you half an hour to get there at this time of day."
"In that case, I guess that I'll just forget about shopping and get a cab
back to my hostess' house where I'll be staying for the weekend. Can you help me
order a cab from here?" I wondered.
"I'll be happy to," the lady replied, "only it will take them
about twenty minutes to get here. Make yourself comfortable in the
meantime."
My first order of business was to take off my coat and enjoy the warmth
emanating from the radiator. As the woman called the taxi, I wondered why in the
world I had ended up so far from my destination. I was not pleased about
spending the rest of the weekend without a warm pair of boots. And I was very
annoyed at having wasted the day going absolutely nowhere. I was soon to find
out that Someone had a more important plan for me than buying a pair of boots.
The woman sat back against her faded green couch and reassured me that the taxi
would be here soon. In the meantime, she was a very gracious hostess and asked
me where I was from.
"Well, I'm originally from Baltimore, but I've lived in New York for the
past few years," I replied.
"Are you religious?" she inquired.
I wondered if there were something about my appearance that broadcast that I
was. "Yes," I acknowledged, "why do you ask?"
"If you're religious, and you're from Baltimore, then you'll appreciate the
story that I'm going to tell you. I'm not religious, but my son is. He became
religious when he was 15 years old. I was happy for him. He wanted to go to a
religious school and decided that the best place for him would be at Ner Israel
yeshiva in Baltimore. When he came home for the summer, I was not feeling so
well. Before he went back to school, he insisted that I see a doctor. I told him
that I didn't think I needed to, but that if it
would make him happy, I would go.
The doctor told my son that I had a tumor the size of a grapefruit in my
stomach.
"So, he came with me to see my doctor. The doctor did some tests on me and
told me that everything was fine. He then told my son to go into his office and
he spoke with my son for a few minutes. I didn't know it at the time, but he
told my son that I had a tumor the size of a grapefruit in my stomach. My son
was stunned, and didn't know what to say. The doctor told him that I couldn't be
expected to live for more than three months, and that there was nothing medical
that
anyone could do to help me.
"My son didn't say a word to me about that conversation. He went back to
school a few days later and told someone there what happened to me. That friend
told the head of the yeshiva. The head of the yeshiva announced that all of the
boys and men in the school would pray for me at every prayer service, three
times a day.
"My son came home for winter break three months later and insisted that I
see the doctor. I didn't know why he wanted me to go since I felt fine, but he
wouldn't stop bothering me about it. I wanted him to be happy, so I finally
went. The doctor did some tests and told me that I was fine. Then he called my
son in the room with me and asked if I had done anything out of the ordinary
since I saw him last. I said, "No."
"The doctor then explained that the grapefruit-sized, lethal tumor that he
had seen three months earlier had completely vanished without a trace. He had no
explanation for it.
"My son did, and he told both of us what happened. "I'm not a
religious person, but isn't the power of prayer amazing? It saved my
life."
"That was eight years ago," the woman explained. "I've been in
fine health ever since. I'm not a religious person, but isn't the power of
prayer amazing? It saved my life."
Now I understood why I had ended up in this woman's living room instead of in a
shoe store. I had prayed for so many things for years and it had seemed that
many of my prayers had gone unanswered. I knew that prayer could result in the
One Above changing people's lives, but it had been a long time since it happened
for me. My prayers had become so lackluster that even though I prayed twice a
day, I usually thought about all kinds of matters that had nothing to do with
the words of prayer that I uttered. When I thanked God that my body functioned,
I didn't feel grateful. While I asked the Almighty to give me health, or
financial success, or wisdom, I might be concentrating on what I would eat for
breakfast while I gave lip service to the words that I recited. As I requested
that my Creator hear my prayers, I was often so distracted that I was mentally
focused on what I would do at work that day. It seemed I had stopped viewing
prayer as something to take seriously.
This woman's son, and those who prayed for her
in the yeshiva, truly believed in the power of prayer. They believed that if God
created the world and runs it, He can surely, and often does, intervene in
the lives of His creations. Prayer can create a spiritual conduit for this to
happen. We have to pray seriously, though, if we want prayer to be effective. If
we pray with sincerity, there is no such
thing as an unanswered prayer. We may not always get the answers that we want,
but we will always be heard and be answered.
That blustery day in Montreal a divine Hand guided me to an unintended
destination because there was a message that I needed to hear. The encounter
with this woman was a catalyst for me to realize
that my prayers simply weren't what they could be. With prayer, we can change
the world. When we don't change the world, sincere prayers are never wasted if
we use them to change ourselves and
foster a closer relationship with the One to whom we pray.
I now know, with the passage of time, that many of my prayers were answered. I
simply hadn't gotten the answers that I had wanted to hear at the time that I
prayed. When we are equally ready to hear
a "No" from our loving Heavenly Parent as a "Yes" because we
value the relationship and any communication that we receive, our prayers can
take us to a different dimension. The prayers of the boys in the yeshiva
undoubtedly took them to Heaven. The woman I met was the beneficiary of prayers
that brought Heaven down to earth.